Arcana 3 in the Destiny Matrix: The Empress

3 · In the day of birth · point A

A three in your day of birth describes an emotional, creative person with strong feminine qualities. You are kind, warm-hearted and genuinely caring towards people. The other side of this portrait is a tendency towards self-admiration, materialism and control over others.

Women born under this energy are attractive and take great care over their appearance. Social and family status matter a lot to them. They know how to set up a business, often become leaders and attract strong, caring men who will do anything for them. Men born on the 3rd are drawn to female company and to housework.

Both men and women show a creative approach to life, a vivid imagination and attention to other people's needs. You are altruistic: you are ready to sacrifice your own interests for others.

In its minus, in women this energy turns into despotism, bossiness, capriciousness and excessive control over loved ones, including children. Looks and material goods start to push out spiritual growth. Men tend to be too soft, henpecked and to escape responsibility under a woman's protection. Regardless of sex, there may be greed and hoarding, excess in food, entertainment and spending, vanity, laziness and procrastination, intrusive meddling in other people's lives, and an inability or unwillingness to deal with everyday chores.

3 · In the month · point B

A three in your month of birth speaks of a gift from above: the energy of Mother Earth, fertility and prosperity. When you trust it, the Universe helps you gain a home, a family, children and status with ease. Women play an important part in your life: they become your guides and mentors.

People of the third arcana have an innate love of self and a talent for caring for family and children. They manage money sensibly. God gives women outer beauty, charm and femininity; their money channel is open and good things come to them on their own. They are big-hearted, kind and generous. A man with the three feels at home in female company: he has a gift for understanding women, enjoys their attention and knows more about many women's matters than other men. Female influence does you good: women share their experience, give valuable advice, guide and support you.

In this position your guardian angel may be a mother figure, loving or overprotective, young or with many children, a pregnant woman, a helper. It may be an influential, powerful woman: a female boss, a director, a woman politician, a rich and respected regal figure, a businesswoman with a profitable company, a lady of good taste, someone who does their job well. The same number stands for sisters and aunts, a mother-in-law, a mature married woman, a wife, a beloved woman, a mistress, a man with a strong feminine side. You yourself can also be the guardian angel.

This is the energy of Aphrodite, Hera, Demeter and the Mother of God, of the element of Earth and of nature. Blocks arise in everyday life when you stop seeing beauty, control and pressure others and so suppress your own femininity. It is important to be free of attachments and of a burning desire to own things. Then every height and every blessing of the Universe comes easily.

• Notice beauty in every part of everyday life and develop your sense of aesthetics. The more beauty you see, the stronger your connection with the Higher powers.
• Accept the woman within you and let women into your life, understand what they want, and forgive your resentment towards your mother.
• Develop your femininity: grow your hair, wear dresses and skirts, use make-up.
• Treat the Earth and everything it gives with gratitude. Give it your negativity and recharge with positive energy. Join women's communities, work and actively engage with women.

3 · In the year · point C

A three in your year of birth sets the task of balancing leadership with not suppressing others and listening to their views. A woman needs to develop her feminine qualities, a man his masculinity and sense of responsibility. The most important thing for both is to let go of control over loved ones.

A woman with a three in her year of birth needs to develop traditional feminine qualities and her creative nature. In a relationship with a man she needs to be flexible. She should support and inspire her partner, respect him and give him freedom, without trying to suppress or re-educate him. With other women, especially her mother, daughter and female relatives, she should be respectful.

A man needs to build self-control, resilience and a sense of responsibility. His task is to provide for himself and his family and to become a reliable support for his chosen partner. He should build his relationships with women on trust and respect.

It is important to see your children as independent people and to let them go in good time. Housework should not swallow all your time. When duties are shared out sensibly, there is room left for self-development, creativity and social life.

• Speak gently, without a commanding tone.
• Instead of indignation, come to acceptance and forgiveness.
• Teach your children to love the land and nature.
• Men: develop generosity, share your resources easily and help people.

3 · In the bottom corner · point D

A three in the karmic point shows up as repeating events. In them you can recognise greed, arrogance, pettiness, the temptation of power, an obsession with material goods and a wish to control everything, and at worst this karma brings childlessness. A man has to build the right relationships with women, a woman has to mend her relationship with her mother and secure her own material comfort.

For a man, the karmic task concerns women, and first of all his mother. He should consciously develop his masculinity, take on a leading male role, learn to make decisions, take responsibility and be an authority for his family.

A woman needs to give more time to her family than to her work. Her life goal is linked to carrying out material plans on earth: providing people with enough so that they live in abundance and prosperity. It does her good to literally fall in love with the land, plant a garden and treat Mother Earth and all her gifts with gratitude.

The urge to control loved ones often grows out of fears and worries about their lives, health and well-being. It is important to recognise these fears and push them into the background. Working off the karma is helped by healthy relationships with children, with men and with women, a warm and cosy atmosphere at home and at work, and comfortable living conditions. Being a good housewife and manager of the household, keeping the material side of life in order and having no financial debts also help.

• Get rid of bossiness, self-importance and the urge to impose your views on others.
• Learn patience, forgiveness and acceptance. Judge people by their inner qualities and treat women with respect, especially your mother and daughter.
• Do not stay alone; build romantic relationships. Women should avoid dominating a man and making excessive demands.
• Let go of your fixation on appearance and of the compulsive wish to own something or someone. Do not put material values above spiritual ones.

3 · In the centre · comfort zone

A three in the centre of the matrix describes your comfort zone: order, cosiness, convenience, beautiful and well-made things. You draw energy from caring for others, from making your home and garden beautiful and from the parent's role, and not necessarily towards your own children. You need social fulfilment, respect and love.

Your strength comes where everything is orderly and structured. You are filled up by the feeling that those weaker than you are safe with you. You feel comfortable when there is someone to lead and give orders to. Behind this lies a need for motherhood and care: to have your own “palace”, a son, and to be cared for.

A man with a three in his comfort zone draws strength from female company, and the more women around him, the better. He is comfortable talking to his mother, wife and daughter. His support comes from harmony between his inner man and inner woman and from understanding what women want.

Society sees you as a person of power and authority. People recognise an empress in a woman with the three. You like to be the centre of attention, and your house, car and social standing tell others about your success.

Entry to the love line

A three at the entrance to the relationship channel shows what you bring into a couple. In its minus you want to find a partner who will give you complete physical and material security. In its plus you are self-sufficient: you depend on no one, take responsibility yourself and fully provide for yourself.

In the minus, women do not believe in their own strength and look for “sugar daddies”. Men are too soft, not ready to take responsibility for a family themselves, and look for strong “mummy” women who will decide and control everything for them.

Love line

A three in the relationship channel describes your partner, and the picture depends on whether your energy is in its plus or its minus. A woman attracts a gentle, caring and tender man. A man attracts a woman for whom family, and especially motherhood, matters most.

In the plus, a woman gets an understanding, generous and attentive man. He surrounds her with care and warmth, accepts all her feelings, and life with him is cosy and comfortable. A man in the plus gets a beautiful, stylish and kind partner. She supports him, gives sound advice, and her faith in him works wonders.

Balance point

A three in the point of balance between money and relationships calls for equilibrium between masculine and feminine. A woman should not slip into masculine energies. A man should become more masculine without denying his own tenderness.

At work, a woman with this three may be businesslike and strict and keep processes under control. With her partner she needs to step out of that role and stay a woman. Talking “as equals, man to man”, total control and showing that she knows better destroy the balance.

Entry to the money line

A three at the entrance to the money channel shows what blocks the flow of money. For a woman it is slipping into masculine energies and denying her femininity and motherhood. For a man it is refusing to take responsibility for his life and family and being afraid to show himself.

In a woman with this three in its minus, femininity does not develop. The balance between the areas of life breaks down: it seems there will not be enough energy for everything, and all her attention goes into one thing. She stops taking care of herself, her appearance and the comfort of her home.

Money line

A three in the money channel is considered a sign of abundance, fertility and good money karma. Money comes to you through feminine energy: through women and children, beauty, care and the distribution of resources. Your task is to build your own “empire”, and you find your way in the business world with ease.

In its plus, people with this three are wealthy and can afford a housekeeper, a nanny and a gardener. Money comes through women and through working with them or for them, through your own femininity, through state child benefits and passive income from grown-up children. For a woman, money may come through a man, a husband or a sponsor. She may not work at all and look after the home and children if the household is large, or earn from home: baking cakes to order, making soap and candles, knitting, sewing, breeding pedigree dogs and cats. A woman can also find fulfilment simply as a mother.

Suitable professions

• Senior positions: director, deputy, vice-president, administrator, head of department, organiser, manager.
• Head of a school, nursery, art school, beauty salon or restaurant.
• Household and administrative roles: supply manager, housekeeper, house manager, building superintendent, chambermaid, municipal employee, hotel, restaurant or fitness club administrator.
• Entrepreneur, running your own business, including businesses for women and children and the hotel trade.
• Head chef, cook, pastry chef, catering and restaurants.
• Beauty: hairdresser, manicurist and pedicurist, stylist, make-up artist, beautician, massage therapist, spa, selling beauty products.
• Working with children: teacher, mentor, nursery teacher, nanny, governess, paediatrician, schools and nurseries.
• Care and medicine: obstetrics and gynaecology, doctor, nurse, carer, psychologist, psychotherapist, specialist in perinatal psychology and family relationships.
• Fashion: seamstress for women's and children's clothing, fashion designer, designer.
• Stage: actor, actress, model, photo model, dancer, show business.
• Land and nature: plant growing, livestock farming, agriculture, a flower shop, breeding pedigree dogs and cats.
• Recruitment manager, working in a mostly female team, selling products for women.
• Handmade work from home: cakes to order, handmade soap and candles, sweet bouquets, knitting, sewing, bead embroidery, dolls.
• Motherhood and running a home as a path in its own right, surrogacy.
• For men also: fitter, coach, fitness and bodybuilding.

Talent zone

A three in the talent zone gives a gift for fertility and multiplying: everything around you grows, multiplies and flourishes. You can receive good things from the world passively, create beauty with your own hands and connect wonderfully with children. In women this is the talent of a mother, wife and muse; in men, the ability to understand women.

Women with this energy become wonderful mothers and wives. They have refined taste, natural femininity and tenderness, they dress beautifully and create a cosy home. They know how to attract good things and get what they want, and can become a muse for their partner or succeed on their own. They are given feminine power and a drive to perfect their skills. The talent opens up when a woman has a good relationship with her mother and children and accepts her femininity.

Purpose

The purpose of The Empress is to become a parent and pass on your knowledge, experience, talents and abilities to your children. It means devoting yourself to your child's upbringing and education, being an example to them and respecting them as a person. You can also fulfil this purpose as a teacher or mentor.

You can pass on ideas, skills and know-how to students and followers just as you would to your own children. You also have an ancestral task: to bring something new into your family line, whether traditions, crafts or a business.

Family task

A three in the ancestral lines points to a family with problems around control, femininity and motherhood. The women carried everything on their shoulders, while the men lacked masculine energy and struggled with decisions and responsibility. The ancestral task is to bring women's happiness back into the family.

In the Empress's ancestral programme, maternal roles were carried out wrongly. The mother was either a “cuckoo” who abandoned her child or one who “devoured” it. There was too little maternal love, care and warmth, or too much of it, and the mother's influence became excessive. This leads to difficulties with the women of the family and with your own mother, a hard female fate, a lack of fertility and poverty, and problems with pregnancy and childbirth.

Parent and child karma

A three in the parent–child channel speaks of maternal love: there was either too little or too much of it. A mother may have given a daughter too little warmth, and may have smothered a son with attention and decided everything for him. The task of these relationships is to accept feminine qualities as a gift, be friends with your mother and love your children unconditionally.

A girl who did not feel her mother's affection withdrew into herself or became hard and overly independent, used to handling everything alone. In adult life this leads to an imbalance between masculine and feminine energies, harshness and a reluctance to become a mother. With a boy the opposite happened: the mother watched his every step and constantly fussed over him. As a grown man he depends on his mother, lacks independence and cannot take on responsibility.

Arcana of a year of life

A year under the third energy may bring the birth of a child. For a woman it is a time to express herself as a woman and work on her femininity. In a man's life, a new woman may appear in such a year.

The three carries the energy of conception and fertility, and in such a year it comes to the fore. For a woman, the events of the year are linked to motherhood and femininity; for a man, to a woman who enters his life.

In a child

A child with the third energy shows parental feelings from an early age. Girls love playing mothers and babysitting younger children, boys are very tender and sensitive, and family matters a great deal to them. These children love nature and animals and are very creative.

Boys and girls with the three are raised differently. A boy needs help to grow up responsible and to learn not to be afraid of showing himself and voicing his opinion. In a girl, a sense of beauty, the ability to take care of herself and a knack for making a cosy home are developed from childhood.